Category: Communication
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Finding My Moorings…Beyond The Conflict Conversation Part 2
By Lisa S. Tarno Another year passed and another year of being gaslit by said person in previous article happened again. Gaslighting is defined as, “To cause (a person) to doubt their judgement, memory, or sanity through the use of psychological manipulation. To deceive ( a person or group of people) through repetition of a…
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Here I Am Again… (Part 1)
The Conflict Conversation Equation By Lisa S. Tarno A simple yet very effective relational tool was impressed upon my heart. I call it the conflict conversation equation. It is simply asking myself before having a crucial conversation with someone three things: There are many things we can say to point out truth to another but…
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The Tension Of Training Your Heart
By Lisa S. Tarno I just heard a great message from our pastor on training the heart. He highlighted two verses that are important to understand why we act the way we act and what to focus on to improve. The situations are when we are provoked what our reactions are and what they say…
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Making Deposits…A Life Tip For Growing Things
By Lisa S. Tarno So I’m doing the do. I’m getting out there in a new place and meeting people. As well, my husband and my strategy in this new place is the fire-hydrant-approach to meeting people. We are getting involved in a lot of things to put ourselves out there socially, spiritually and athletically.…
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Small Talk…Blah, Blah Blah
By Lisa S. Tarno Am I alone in this feeling? I just do not like small talk. It seems forced, fake, and very uncomfortable. It happens at events, dinner parties, corporate parties and social settings where the main event either hasn’t begun or has just finished. Unless you find the right person that you instantly…
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Alone In The Crowd
By Lisa S. Tarno I’m thinking of a recent conversation I had with someone regarding whether or not I would attend an upcoming women’s event at our new church. I love the idea of it, but honestly said that it was intimidating as a new person, because nothing so aptly exploits all that I do not…
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Can We Forgive Someone And Still Feel Disgust For Them?
By Lisa S. Tarno The question within the question would be does the feeling of loathing, extreme dislike, or disgust negate the reality of actually forgiving someone? Some may legalistically say that our feelings would betray us and we never truly forgave….is that true? Some may say that our feelings are our feelings absent of…
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Starting Over In A New Place
By Lisa S. Tarno Moving to a new city is exciting and daunting. I have left behind dear friends that have shared life with me and know me (and still like me…ha ha). While the prospect of anything new can be thrilling, with the case of moving it is tethered to the realization of being…
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The Wisdom Of Silence
By Lisa S. Tarno I relate quite keenly to the fable of the scorpion and the frog. It basically goes like this: There once was a frog on a lily pad and a scorpion on the riverbank wanting to get to the other side. The scorpion asks the frog to let him jump on his…
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Silence
By Lisa S. Tarno I often retreat into silence when I don’t know how to respond. I figure it’s better to error on that side than saying something I might later regret. I’ve learned to take time to sort things and settle myself rather than give an abrupt answer. My silence is not acceptance of…
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